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JC Cloe's avatar

I have more of a statement but I would like to ask what your professional thoughts might be as to whether my statement withstands professional rigor enough to be considered true.

I think freedom is misunderstood the most. I would say that true "autonomy" is not some wild frontier of limitless exploration of ones self but more of a connection to something grounded and stable that elevates ones finest characteristics and demonstrates the most self control. In Marriage I would equate autonomy to a measure of trust between people enough that the character and behavior of either individual is demonstrative of high value traits. Essentially autonomy should be for self enrichment rather than some form of self adulation and selfish interest which might lead to salacious or lascivious behavior.

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Linda Williams's avatar

I’m curious if each person has a certain underlying need or needs trying to be met, similar to how we have “love languages”? I’ve been divorced/separated for 7 years and looking back I can see where the bulk of our arguments for me, despite the topic or words definitely would fall into two of your categories. I was trying to figure out what may have been beneath the surface for my ex. In really examining this list I would say I left because I never felt I was his top priority or that he respected or appreciated me. I still feel loved by him to this day and power and freedom were never issues for me.

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