Today, I'm announcing the reimagining of my Substack publication, which is now called Humaning. Humaning is the lifelong art of opening our hearts to the whole human experience, so we may love more bravely and live more boldy. Welcome to the humaning experience!
I have no doubt that the intentionality of our call with him was inspired at least in part by the stories you told me about your mom's passing. Thank you, my friend.
Kelly, you always find the perfect word to express your own heartfelt message. Of course it resonates with me as I have, on my dresser, a beautiful artwork canvas saying ‘wherever you go, go with all your heart’.
I live by it, and have shared it with my sons for this whole journey. But I do often find it lonely, because many people cannot tolerate that kind of vulnerability. And sometimes we empaths, especially in times of crisis, global, especially, look for our people, to be humanly courageous with…and there aren’t as many as we would like there to be. In addition, we can make people uncomfortable if they are not able to join the conversation. Makes me beyond grateful to be a guide among guides…let’s All keep Humaning together ❤️🙏❤️
One of my childhood friends happened to post just this morning on her Substack about the topic of death and grief and how often we try to avoid it. I'm grateful to be here in this space with you, Marilyn, and so many others who are willing to tolerate the vulnerability of it long enough to find some beauty in it, too. https://lmbartelt.substack.com/p/few-things-in-life-are-certain
My mother passed away a little over a month ago. We had a similar experience with her at one of our last visits. This post really put my eye lids to the test. Thanks.
Michael, I'd love to hear how that intention came about for you. I read Michael Singer's book a couple years ago and set it as my new year's resolution, and it's been life-changing. How about you?
Humaning is what I hear & see when I read this story! By VuVu, by you and Kelly and your children! A legacy of courage, 3 generations of opening your hearts to difficult conversation and experiencing ALL of it!
Witnessing your humanness creates a desire for the same in me and I’m so excited for this new book and adventure! Your words, your ability to connect story to everyday life, reminds me to live today, be present to today, and open my heart to it all! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you, Rho! And I appreciate how you see my kids in this story. It really was very brave of them, too. They have way more courage than their old man did at their age!
This is beautiful, and timely - how perfectly it happens. I lost my brother two weeks ago. He was younger than Vuvu, but I know the bravery you describe of fully open. My intention is to share his story on my substack. I hope it will resonate. Thank you.
I'm sorry for your loss but glad hear of the bravery in it that made it beautiful, too. I just subscribed to your Substack and grateful to make another connection here!
Isn't it interesting how "humaning" sounds so much more welcoming than "adulting" does? Less pressure, less expectation, more we're-all-in-this-togetherness. And, of course, we've all likely had an experience similar to what you describe with Vuvu. You're making me want to write about my grandfather, just to do it. It's been nine years, but in many ways doesn't feel even half that long. Hmm. Maybe I will...
I can't wait to see the piece about your grandfather, Nancy. And your right, adulting has a pretty negative connotation. The good news, though, is that after adulting comes second-childhooding, and that's amazing! 😊
Beautifully written, your writing always pulls me in because it is consistently authentic, relatable and are so often the words of MY heart, or similar to words I would use. I love the back story woven in to the present moment scene; lovely, tender. I have imagined a future "death bed" and hope that no words or sentiments were left unsaid long before that moment. I am into the "eldering" phase of my "humaning". Let's keep it going. TY
It's great to hear from you here, Heather. Thank you for your kind words. I love the idea of making sure nothing is left unsaid by the time that time comes. That would speak to a remarkably open-hearted life!
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I want to be like Vuvu when I grow up
He was an incredibly honorable man. 🥲
Kelly, you have a real gift with storytelling and connecting hearts. Thank you for sharing Vuvu with us!
Thank you, Joan, and thank you for letting me share him with you. 😊
My mom passed this last June at age 96, so I have some resonating tears as I read your post. Looking forward to Humaning.
I have no doubt that the intentionality of our call with him was inspired at least in part by the stories you told me about your mom's passing. Thank you, my friend.
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Wow. “I hope I’m that brave when my time comes”. Thank you Kelly this was beautiful.
You're welcome, Susan, thank you for being here.
Love this! Thank you for sharing the story. “I hope that I’m that brave when my time comes”. What a beautiful story.
It's great to hear from you, Laurie, thanks for your kind words as always!
Kelly, you always find the perfect word to express your own heartfelt message. Of course it resonates with me as I have, on my dresser, a beautiful artwork canvas saying ‘wherever you go, go with all your heart’.
I live by it, and have shared it with my sons for this whole journey. But I do often find it lonely, because many people cannot tolerate that kind of vulnerability. And sometimes we empaths, especially in times of crisis, global, especially, look for our people, to be humanly courageous with…and there aren’t as many as we would like there to be. In addition, we can make people uncomfortable if they are not able to join the conversation. Makes me beyond grateful to be a guide among guides…let’s All keep Humaning together ❤️🙏❤️
One of my childhood friends happened to post just this morning on her Substack about the topic of death and grief and how often we try to avoid it. I'm grateful to be here in this space with you, Marilyn, and so many others who are willing to tolerate the vulnerability of it long enough to find some beauty in it, too. https://lmbartelt.substack.com/p/few-things-in-life-are-certain
What a lovely story, and thank you for sharing it with us. Many blessing to Vuvu and your family!
Thank you, Heather!
My mother passed away a little over a month ago. We had a similar experience with her at one of our last visits. This post really put my eye lids to the test. Thanks.
Thanks for letting us know, Tom. I pray reading and feeling this piece felt like another way to honor your mother with your grief.
Dude! Come on! I'm at work man. You can't pull this stuff on me while I'm trying to be professional.
I'm grateful for your ability and willingness to share. Thank you.
Keep it going.
The don't-read-at-work disclaimer goes without saying by now, doesn't it? 😉 Thanks as always for your encouragement, JC!
Good timing. Learning to keep my heart open regardless of circumstances. Thank you.
Michael, I'd love to hear how that intention came about for you. I read Michael Singer's book a couple years ago and set it as my new year's resolution, and it's been life-changing. How about you?
Humaning is what I hear & see when I read this story! By VuVu, by you and Kelly and your children! A legacy of courage, 3 generations of opening your hearts to difficult conversation and experiencing ALL of it!
Witnessing your humanness creates a desire for the same in me and I’m so excited for this new book and adventure! Your words, your ability to connect story to everyday life, reminds me to live today, be present to today, and open my heart to it all! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Kelly!
Thank you, Rho! And I appreciate how you see my kids in this story. It really was very brave of them, too. They have way more courage than their old man did at their age!
This is beautiful, and timely - how perfectly it happens. I lost my brother two weeks ago. He was younger than Vuvu, but I know the bravery you describe of fully open. My intention is to share his story on my substack. I hope it will resonate. Thank you.
I'm sorry for your loss but glad hear of the bravery in it that made it beautiful, too. I just subscribed to your Substack and grateful to make another connection here!
Thank you so much.
A beautiful story Dr. Kelly - thanks for sharing.
Thanks for reading and for your encouraging words, Joe.
Isn't it interesting how "humaning" sounds so much more welcoming than "adulting" does? Less pressure, less expectation, more we're-all-in-this-togetherness. And, of course, we've all likely had an experience similar to what you describe with Vuvu. You're making me want to write about my grandfather, just to do it. It's been nine years, but in many ways doesn't feel even half that long. Hmm. Maybe I will...
I can't wait to see the piece about your grandfather, Nancy. And your right, adulting has a pretty negative connotation. The good news, though, is that after adulting comes second-childhooding, and that's amazing! 😊
Beautifully written, your writing always pulls me in because it is consistently authentic, relatable and are so often the words of MY heart, or similar to words I would use. I love the back story woven in to the present moment scene; lovely, tender. I have imagined a future "death bed" and hope that no words or sentiments were left unsaid long before that moment. I am into the "eldering" phase of my "humaning". Let's keep it going. TY
It's great to hear from you here, Heather. Thank you for your kind words. I love the idea of making sure nothing is left unsaid by the time that time comes. That would speak to a remarkably open-hearted life!