We are the stealers of our own peace. There's enough creativity to go around. Together, we make a balanced foundation for the next generation. You can feel your soul tipping out of alignment. We find life in the making, not the finishing.
Thank you, Kelly. "...our best doing always arises from a thoughtful being." Grateful for your insights. It's good to know other famous people struggled with being vs. doing. Frank Sinatra did: "Do be do be do."
Ha! Pretty much guaranteed that if you're famous you struggle with being vs. doing, because it takes a lot of doing to become known. Even Jesus did, right? He was always getting burnt out and having to fight for a little peace and quiet.
There’s a whole book in this post. “The stealer of my peace is me”—this is so many of us. I think it comes from this product-based society where we’re all measured by what we’ve made, and how much “better” it has to be than what anyone else has made, or what we’ve made before, in order to be “good,” or even just “good enough.” It’s madness and we’ve all bought into it. How great would it be if we were encouraged to develop our peace first, or instead?
I also needed your reminder not to covet someone else’s creativity today. I’m at a Doctor Who con and a friend told me about her fantastic photo idea, and my first thought was, “Oh, why didn’t I think of that??” I immediately felt really disappointed that I hadn’t thought of it, or something else like it. Maybe I’ll let go of that, at least a little, now. 😁
PS: I got a pretty fabulous photo with a simple idea that's been done a zillion times, proving once again that you don't always have to be "original" to create something wonderful. :)
You know what the hard part is? It's the understanding of how you just stole your own peace and you cannot reclaim the peace you lost. You can move forward, but letting go of an opportunity lost is really painful. The extra painful addition to that is when this pain, this loss of peace, totally avoidable, is not the first or the 1,000th time you've done this to yourself. Going for long periods where peace was found in a moment and not totally ruined for several moments thereafter, then BOOM, you just rip that peace out like a violent torent all for the sake of not having that peace fully realized in a while.
It is "frustrating". I'm frustrated this morning as I have ripped the peace I might have felt from myself just before getting to this read. ...I'm not angry, I'm not sad, I'm just hurt. Maybe if I read this article yesterday instead of this morning, I'd have a different perspective...but I don't. I cannot change where I am, or how I feel...perhaps I can realign my perspective...judge things less harshly for myself and look for some grace. However it goes, thank you Kelly for being you. You help, even if I'm in the middle of my own unhelpful moment, you help. Thank you.
JC, thank you for putting words to a pattern so many of us find ourselves in. Brene Brown refers to it as foreboding joy. You feel joy, then you feel afraid of losing that joy, thus you lose that joy. The question is, can you love yourself even when you are the stealer of your own peace, or do we become our own worst critic at that point? Because if we beat ourselves up for it, we push that peace farther away, but if we can love ourselves, we invite it back in.
Kelly, I wrote a bunch of words and decided to just email the larger quantity to you instead of torturing the group. But here in the chat I'll say this:
I had a new experience this morning. I shared my most vulnerable self with a group of what could have been a very dangerous group to share with. (Teenagers) I think today I had a Welcomer moment. I took my mess and shared it with those kids. I think it turned out just fine. I know I turned out just fine from it.
“My best doing always arises from a thoughtful being.” I love this awareness and will reflect on it throughout this morning, day, week and so on. Thank you for the reminder to turn inward before I create outward.
As usual, this is a beautiful and timely reminder. Thank you for your writings. May peace fill your heart today.
Thank you, and peace to you as well, my friend!
Thank you, Kelly. "...our best doing always arises from a thoughtful being." Grateful for your insights. It's good to know other famous people struggled with being vs. doing. Frank Sinatra did: "Do be do be do."
Ha! Pretty much guaranteed that if you're famous you struggle with being vs. doing, because it takes a lot of doing to become known. Even Jesus did, right? He was always getting burnt out and having to fight for a little peace and quiet.
True. His example is to be trusted and practiced. It has become a matter of soul survival for me.
There’s a whole book in this post. “The stealer of my peace is me”—this is so many of us. I think it comes from this product-based society where we’re all measured by what we’ve made, and how much “better” it has to be than what anyone else has made, or what we’ve made before, in order to be “good,” or even just “good enough.” It’s madness and we’ve all bought into it. How great would it be if we were encouraged to develop our peace first, or instead?
I also needed your reminder not to covet someone else’s creativity today. I’m at a Doctor Who con and a friend told me about her fantastic photo idea, and my first thought was, “Oh, why didn’t I think of that??” I immediately felt really disappointed that I hadn’t thought of it, or something else like it. Maybe I’ll let go of that, at least a little, now. 😁
I think us creatives need to talk more about our compulsive jealousy. :)
Hmmm... maybe we could dig into that next time you're on the pod!
Would love to!!!
I'm making a note so we don't forget. :)
Excellent!
PS: I got a pretty fabulous photo with a simple idea that's been done a zillion times, proving once again that you don't always have to be "original" to create something wonderful. :)
You know what the hard part is? It's the understanding of how you just stole your own peace and you cannot reclaim the peace you lost. You can move forward, but letting go of an opportunity lost is really painful. The extra painful addition to that is when this pain, this loss of peace, totally avoidable, is not the first or the 1,000th time you've done this to yourself. Going for long periods where peace was found in a moment and not totally ruined for several moments thereafter, then BOOM, you just rip that peace out like a violent torent all for the sake of not having that peace fully realized in a while.
It is "frustrating". I'm frustrated this morning as I have ripped the peace I might have felt from myself just before getting to this read. ...I'm not angry, I'm not sad, I'm just hurt. Maybe if I read this article yesterday instead of this morning, I'd have a different perspective...but I don't. I cannot change where I am, or how I feel...perhaps I can realign my perspective...judge things less harshly for myself and look for some grace. However it goes, thank you Kelly for being you. You help, even if I'm in the middle of my own unhelpful moment, you help. Thank you.
JC, thank you for putting words to a pattern so many of us find ourselves in. Brene Brown refers to it as foreboding joy. You feel joy, then you feel afraid of losing that joy, thus you lose that joy. The question is, can you love yourself even when you are the stealer of your own peace, or do we become our own worst critic at that point? Because if we beat ourselves up for it, we push that peace farther away, but if we can love ourselves, we invite it back in.
Kelly, I wrote a bunch of words and decided to just email the larger quantity to you instead of torturing the group. But here in the chat I'll say this:
I had a new experience this morning. I shared my most vulnerable self with a group of what could have been a very dangerous group to share with. (Teenagers) I think today I had a Welcomer moment. I took my mess and shared it with those kids. I think it turned out just fine. I know I turned out just fine from it.
“My best doing always arises from a thoughtful being.” I love this awareness and will reflect on it throughout this morning, day, week and so on. Thank you for the reminder to turn inward before I create outward.
"Turn inward before I create outward" is a WONDERFUL summation of the idea, Lindsey, and one that will help me too. Thank you!
I enjoy your "Wait for it"... I love the little twists, and end surprises to bring us back around to see truth in another version