Connection doesn’t break down between people, but within people.
I have a Ph.D. in clinical psychology with a focus on communication and conflict. Just a few years into my career, though, I hit a ceiling in how much I could help my clients, and my own marriage was falling apart. That’s when I discovered the real source of relationship conflict: we think we’re connecting, when we’re actually protecting.
Since then, through my blog, books, speaking, coaching, and now Substack, I’ve helped millions of people understand why they get triggered into protection mode and how to stay calmly in connection mode instead. I can help you do that too. If you’ve got a couple minutes, I made a short video about it for you.
My proprietary Peaceful Pivot Process (P3) will help you turn your triggers into togetherness, and its three stages become their own rewards:
Get Calm: Inner peace isn’t really inner peace if it can be stolen by outer problems. The P3 will help you cultivate calm that isn’t contingent on your circumstances.
Get Free: As you learn to feel your feelings, you’ll no longer need to fix them, nor be afraid of them. Then, you’re free to remain openhearted when you used to get triggered, discovering that an open heart isn’t a weaker heart but a wiser heart.
Get Connected: With a more consistently open heart, you’ll be able to set boundaries without battles, turn conflict-prone moments into opportunities for curiosity, and connect with compassion even when your people are triggered.
As you can see, there’s a reason we call this community The Less Triggered Tribe. Relationships are transformed from the inside out, and in our thriving membership community there are a variety of ways you can do the inner work that makes your relationships work:
Weekly Wednesday posts: I’ll send you a post every Wednesday morning with inspiration and guidance for showing up less triggered in your day-to-day life.
Monthly community calls: Our monthly Zoom calls—usually the third Friday of each month at 1pm CT—include a live keynote from me, as well as group coaching and community conversation.
Full archive of calls: We record those calls and make some or all of the recording available the following Wednesday
Community chat forum: In the Substack chat, you can ask any question related to personal or relational growth, at the very moment you need to ask it.
Online course: The Less Triggered Teachings is an 11-session online course recorded live with our Paid and Full member from March 2026 to January 2027.
Private trainings: Once a quarter, our Full members gather for extended trainings to receive real-time guidance about how to apply what they are learning to specific situations in their lives.
What People are Saying about The Less Triggered Tribe
What you get at different levels of membership:
It is tragic, really, how much time and attention are taken up by the cycle of rupture and repair.
The birdsong we ignore. The sunsets we miss. The art that never gets created. The memories that never get made. The moments of joy that never get had. The hidden costs of staying trapped in our triggers are enormous. Which is why I’m distilling decades of discovery into this affordable membership community: you shouldn’t have to break the bank to break the patterns that imprison you. You can get huge value for free, or go deeper with a paid membership.
Frequently Asked Questions About Paid Memberships
Should I subscribe monthly or annually? We offer both options because we want to make this community as affordable as possible for everyone. However, we encourage you to subscribe for a full year because (1) you’re worthy of a year of self-care, (2) the P3 is an ongoing practice, and (3) it saves you almost twenty percent!
When are the live calls, and what if I can’t attend? Live calls are most commonly held on the third Friday of each month at one o’clock Central Time. While there’s value to being on a call and getting your own questions answered, replays are available in the archives within five days of the call for anyone who can’t attend.
If I don’t use my membership, can I get my money back? Absolutely—we hold no hostages here! Every member can receive a pro-rated refund after their first full month of membership.
You’ve probably noticed: the world is on a hair trigger.
However, I believe we can turn down the temperature of humanity’s conversation one less-triggered moment at a time. And I love this Less Triggered Tribe, where we’re doing the work to make that happen.
I can’t wait to walk through the P3 with you!
A little more about me.
I'm a USA Today bestselling author, international speaker, concierge coach, and licensed clinical psychologist with two decades of expertise in interpersonal relationships. My thought leadership has been featured in The 5 Love Languages, the TODAY Show, Reader’s Digest, HuffPost, and Success Magazine.
My first two non-fiction books, Loveable and True Companions, debuted as #1 New Releases in Interpersonal Relations, and my debut novel, The Unhiding of Elijah Campbell, has earned multiple literary awards. My most recent book, The Road Less Triggered, hit #23 on the USA Today Bestseller List. I deliver keynotes internationally and count the Green Bay Packers amongst my audiences. And I’ve poured myself into gathering this online community for more than a dozen years.
I'm married to another clinical psychologist who’s also named Kelly. Dr. Kelly and Dr. Kelly. We give them fits at airport security. We have three children—one adulting, one in college, and one still with us in our small town west of Chicago.
