Welcome to the dance floor!

Most of us live every day in a state of self-rejection and life-resistance so subtle we’re almost entirely unaware of it. Humaning is the lifelong art of reversing the rejection and resistance, welcoming every part of ourselves and our story, and watching what happens next.

What happens next, you ask? Perhaps Thomas Merton said it best when he wrote that we “cast our awful solemnity to the winds and join in the general dance.” This Substack is an invitation to the dance, where we are:

  • reclaiming our native language of laughter,

  • redeeming the pain in our story,

  • overcoming our internal barriers to true belonging,

  • discovering our purpose is joy not a job,

  • living with open hearts and soothed nervous systems,

  • and practicing the faith that everything is going to be okay.

That’s what you’ll be subscribing to when you join 15,000+ other readers of Humaning on the dance floor.

Get the discounted $50 annual subscription (just $4-ish a month) and receive:

  • inspiration and guidance from me every Wednesday—right in your inbox,

  • our monthly Human Hour community calls on Zoom, with topics chosen by you to maximize the relevance and helpfulness to your humaning,

  • a digital download of The Marriage Manifesto—a treatise on love that is guaranteed to elevate your consciousness in all of your relationships, and…

  • community Chat discussions related to your most urgent questions.

A paid subscriber recently remarked that the Human Hour call alone was more helpful than the personal transformation conference she’d just attended, which cost a thousand dollars, a plane ticket, and three nights of hotel. You can join us by subscribing for just $5/month, though I’d encourage you to take advantage of the discounted annual subscription. You are worth a year’s worth of humaning!

Full-access founding members will also get the Loveable Bonus Bundle, including:

  • a signed copy of Loveable,

  • exclusive recordings of supplemental conversations with me about deepening your experiences of worthiness, belonging, and purpose,

  • a digital download of the Loveable companion guide, available nowhere else—in a step-by-step process I’ll walk with you into a greater sense of worthiness and the belonging that is both your birthright and your destiny—and…

Free subscribers:

  • are equally beloved around here and get a post most Wednesdays about the art of humaning.

Are you a book reader, too?

You’re in the right place, because I’m a book writer, too. I write books about the inner journey that transforms our lives into something more beautifully human. Loveable is about turning our shame into worthiness, True Companions is about turning our loneliness into togetherness, and Unhiding is about turning our hiddenness into courageousness.

Author Katherine Pershey described Loveable as "a handbook for how to be human." New York Times bestselling author Bob Goff said True Companions is "a gift to every couple and every kind of companion everywhere." And award-winning author Cheryl Bostrom had this to say about my first novel: "Tuesdays with Morrie meets The Shack in The Unhiding of Elijah Campbell…a pitch-perfect page-turner of a story…I closed the cover with new clarity, new conviction and, I hope, new capability to forgive and love."

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A little bit about me

I’m a psychologist turned novelist and a few things in between, including a husband of twenty-plus years, a dad to three amazing human beings between the ages of fourteen and twenty, a keynote speaker, and a coach to a handful of successful entrepreneurs who want more than mere success. I’ve been on the TODAY Show twice, and my writing has appeared in Reader’s Digest and HuffPost. Not to mention, other than the Bible, my writing is the only cited reference in The 5 Love Languages. Ha!

I’m married to another clinical psychologist named Kelly. That’s right: Dr. Kelly and Dr. Kelly. We wreak havoc at airport security. A while back, we moved to a little town in rural Illinois where, on any snowy morning before dawn, the streetlight outside our house is reminiscent of the lamp post in Narnia where Lucy met Tumnus.

I’m so glad you’re here.

I’m keenly aware that without readers like you, there are no authors like me. In other words, we’re in a relationship that matters to me, and I’d love to get to know you better, so after you subscribe below feel free to introduce yourself in the comments here.

See you on the dance floor!

Much love,


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Kelly Flanagan

Psychologist turned novelist. Featured in Reader's Digest, Huffington Post, The 5 Love Languages, and the TODAY Show. Humaning one writing at a time.