“We want to work on our communication.”
That is the number one request of most couples who present for couples therapy, and it is one of the most common sentiments in any relationship. It was also one of your top requests for Human Hour topics, in response to last month’s survey.
So, this month we focused on finding the common ground in seemingly incompatible conflict styles. I spoke for twenty minutes and then we spent thirty minutes in Q&A and conversation. If you weren’t there, I recorded the teaching for you.
This is what I cover in the recording:
The most common kind of problematic communication pattern in relationships
Viewing conflict styles as defensive behaviors rather than defective characters
The nine defensive behaviors that are often utilized within these styles
A scientific study that revealed the commonality beneath very different styles
The role of nervous system dysregulation in perpetuating these conflict styles
Concrete, actionable guidelines for disrupting the pattern
If you attended the Q&A and conversation after the keynote, I’d love to continue the discussion with you in the comments. If you missed the live event but have questions of your own, I’d love to hear those in the comments as well.
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